My Personal Experience with Iyanla Vanzant

With raving cheers and excitement flowing through the room, every leader at the Black Enterprise: Women of Power Summit was ready to release and be refilled by the popular “fixer of life,” Iyanla Vanzant. Before pouring into the ladies, she cleared our minds with a group mediation of deep breaths and hand holding. During that special still moment, she reminded us we are angels who needed specific care to continue our life’s work. 

Let’s take a look.

She continued the mediation and opening song “Intentional” by Travis Greene in hopes of channeling our thoughts and emotions toward a new, profound, “woke” moment…

(Take a deep breath in; let it out.) 

Mind your business!

I know, right. I was waiting for some extra, grand speech, but nope, she kept it simple by reminding us to mind our business.

Here’s my Special Moment

As powerful leaders, we’re not intentional about minding our business. We can save the world, so we believe, solve every problem in a matter of moments, and draw up a strategic plan in our sleep, literally.

But our self-care sucks. Period!

How often do we plan our day in our beautiful planners or Google Calendars, trying to accomplish so much? Or better yet, stay up all night to make sure it’s all done but don’t care for ourselves. When was the last time you canceled a meeting (when really it was just a meeting about a meeting to plan another meeting) to take care of yourself?

Yeah, that’s what I thought- NEVER!

(Take a deep breath in; let it out.)

In that moment, I realized I had it wrong. Yes, it’s great to be a leader, a powerful change agent (or whatever “deep word” you want to used), but I really needed to mind my business.

Let’s go deep

Everyone has some sort of issue that’s a constant reminder of you need to fix this. FIX IT! Instead of telling other people what they should be doing, focus on yourself. Stop trying to save the world; better yet, save the world by fixing yourself. (#MajorKey)

There are times when we need help, and we should seek the help we need. But before we can get to that mindset, we have to acknowledge we need help. Slow down and pay attention to the signs. Don’t ignore the daily reminders of opportunities to be better.

As leaders, we’re in a position to guide others, and if we’re not demonstrating what self-care looks like in our roles, our followers will not do the same.

Ultimately, we’re creating a culture of dismissing self-care at the expense of achieving goals. We come home, complain about all this work we do, but yet we don’t use our “powerful positions” to empower others with self-care.

(Take a deep breath in; let it out.)

Here’s the deal

As great as it is to accomplish all this stuff and to climb this latter or whatever, you won’t be here to enjoy it until you master this.

Mind your business!


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